I just don't understand some people....

Ok, so I was going to start the 5 day pouch test today, but realized that I didn't have any of the required eating items. So off to the grocery store I went. While I was shopping a friend and her hubby came up to me. We were just talking when her hubby picked up a brochure for slimfast and gave it to her (she is about 6 foot and 280-290), he then gave it to me and when I saw it I automatically said, "oh, I already got the weightloss going, but I wouldn't use SlimFast, it has to much sugar." I wasn't being rude, they both are good friends and know what I have been through. She then looked at me and said "oh, well I am going to have the surgery when we get settled after our move this summer." Well, good for her. She then proceeded to inform me that our insurance would in fact pay for lapband as of the 1st. Well, duh, I called and told her about it when it first posted on the message boards of obesityhelp.com. When I first told her that I was going to have the surgery she was happy for me. For her she said that she didn't need to have the surgery that she would just get her fat cut off of her. She then went and paid cash for a tummy tuck. While I have to admit, they did cut it off, and she did look good, she had a really hard time and ended up having to stay in the hospital on two seperate occasions and had an infection and a blood clot near her heart or lungs, I can't remember which. Not a very good experience, but she is a trooper and did good. The point of my rambling is that when she finally came home she didn't change her eating habits and although she has an ab lounger, an elliptical and another piece of workout equiptment she does not use them. She told me the other day that it was her husbands fault that she had gained her weight back and she has always said that it was his fault that she got fat in the first place. She use to be a size 8 and after marrying him and having kids she gained weight. Ok, I am getting to the point....she has seen me struggle with having the surgery and making adjustments in my eating habits and she still thinks that the surgery is a sure fire fix. In the beginning it is a great way to lose the weight, but if you don't change your lifestyle then you will gain the weight back. You have to want to have smaller portions, you have to want to exercise, you have to want a better life for yourself. You have to take responsibilty for your actions and not blame your weight on others, unless they are holding you down and force feeding you on a daily basis. For some reason I just don't understand some people.....